Hood Mortuary - Durango, Colorado's Family Funeral Home

Hood Mortuary offers a lending library for the entire community to use. The listings are by subject; to borrow a book or resource call or stop by Hood Mortuary.

A listing of all available support groups and organizations follows the library listings. The Community Bereavement Connection was compiled to assist those suffering loss in our community.

Web Links are also listed for National Organizations. Click here to Contact Hood Mortuary

Library List

GENERAL GRIEF

Before I Wake - Carlson, Paul R.

Beyond Good-bye: A Guide for Your Journey Through Grief - Accord Aftercare

Biblical Perspectives On Death- Bailey Sr., Lloyd R.

Blessed Are They That Mourn - Oda, Stephanie C.

*A Circle Of Love(The Oklahoma City Bombing Through A Child's Eye) - Jones, Frances

Comforting Those Who Grieve - Manning, Doug

Companion Through The Darkness - Ericsson, Stephanie

Companion to Grief - Kelley, Patricia

Concerning Death: A Practical Guide For The Living - Grollman, Earl A.

*Confessions Of A Grieving Christian - Ziglar, Zig

Coping with Bereavement - McIlwraith, Hamish

Cry Until You Laugh - Obershaw, Richard J., MSW, LICSW

Death: The Final Stage Of Growth - Kubler-Ross, Elisabeth

*Death & Grief: A Guide For Clergy - Wolfelt, Alan D.

Don't Take My Grief Away From Me - Manning, Doug

Eunice - Mast, Don

Facing Death And Life After - Graham, Billy

For The Living - Jackson, Edgar N. (3 Copies)

Gaining Through Losing - Christenson, Evelyn

Gentle Closings - Menten, Ted

Getting Through The Night - Price, Eugenia

*Good Grief - Westberg, Granger E.

Grief For A Season - Tengbom, Mildred

A Grief Observed - Lewis, C.S.

Grief's Healing Process - Sell, Charles M.

*The Grief Recovery Handbook - James, John W. & Cherry Frank

A Guide To Understanding Guilt During Bereavement - Baugher, RObert Ph.D.

Holiday Help, A Guide for Hope and Healing - Accord Aftercare

Holy Bible - King James, NIV

How To Care For Yourself While You Care For The Dying & Bereaved - Wolfelt, Alan D.

How to Go On Living When Someone You Love Dies - Rando, Therese

*How To Reach Out For Help While You Are Grieving - Wolfelt, Alan D.

*How To Start & Lead A Bereavement Support Group - Wolfelt, Alan D.

How To Survive The Loss Of A Love - Colgrove, Bloomfield, and Mc Williams

*Jaws Of Death: Gate Of Heaven - von Hildebrand, Dietrich

*Kitchen Table Wisdom: Stories That Heal - Remen, M.D., Rachel Naomi

Let Me Grieve But Not Forever - Davis, Verdell

Living Through Personal Crisis - Stearns, Ann Kaiser

Living When A Loved One Has Died - Grollman, Earl A

Living With Grief After Sudden Loss - Doka, Kenneth J. (VCR Tape Available Also)

Living With Grief When Illness Is Prolonged - Doka, Kenneth J. - (2 Copies).

*Love, Medicine & Miracles - Siegel, M.D., Bernie S.

*Love Is Stronger Than Death - Kreeft, Peter J.

The Mourning Handbook - Fitzgerald, Helen

On Death And Dying - Kubler-Ross, Elisabeth

A Passage Through Grief - Baumgardner, Barbara

Recovering From The Losses Of Life - Wright H. Norman

Religion And Bereavement - Kutscher & Kutscher

Remembering With Love - Levang & Ilse

GENERAL GRIEF continued

Sad Ain't Forever - Bereavement Magazine

The Significance Of The Christian Funeral - Jackson, Edgar N. - (2 copies)

Start the Conversation - Stone, Ganga

A Time To Grieve - Staudacher, Carol

To Help You Through The Hurting - Holmes, Marjorie

Transcending Loss - Prend, Ashley Davis

*Trusting God Even When Life Hurts - Bridges, Jerry

Understanding Anger During Bereavement - Baugher, Ph.D., Hankins, Ph.D., Hankins, M.S.

Understanding Grief - Wolfelt, Alan D.

Understanding Loneliness - Jackson, Edgar N.

Up From Grief - Kreis, Bernadine & Pattie, Alice

What To Do When A Loved One Dies - Shaw, Eva

*What Will Help Me? How Can I Help? - Miller, James E. (2 Copies)

The Wheel of Life - Kubler-Ross, Elisabeth

*When God Doesn't Make Sense - Dobson, Dr. James - (2 copies)

When Loved Ones Are Called Home - Wernecke, Herbert H.

*When There Is No Miracle - Wise, Robert L.

When You Are Alone - Arnold, William & Fohl, Margaret

*When Your Dreams Die - Heavilin, Marilyn Willett

Why Are the Casseroles Always Tuna? - Sims, Darcie

Working Through Your Grief - Sunderland, Ronald H.

You And Your Grief - Jackson, Edgar N.

HELP WHEN A SIBLING DIES

The Courage to Grieve - Tatelbaum, Judy

HELP WHEN A FRIEND DIES

Grieving The Death Of A Friend - Smith, Harold Ivan

A GRANDPARENTS GRIEF

*For Bereaved Grandparents - Gerner, Margaret H. - (2 Copies)

Grieving Grandparents - Leininger, Lori & Isle, Sherokee

When A Grandchild Dies - Galinsky, Nadine

HELP FOR A CHILD WHEN A PARENT DIES

Early Winter (Adult Child) - Bronson, Howard

*How It Feels When A Parent Dies (Age 7-15) - Krementz, Jill

How to Survive the Loss of a Parent (Adult Child) - Akner, Lois F. with Whitney, Catherine

On Grieving The Death Of A Father - Smith, Harold, Ivan

*Recovering From The Loss Of A Parent (Adult Child) - Donnelly, Katherine Fair

When Parents Die (Adult Child) - Myers, Edward

HELP FOR A PARENT WHEN A CHILD DIES

After the Darkest Hour the Sun Will Shine Again - Mehren, Elizabeth

The Bereaved Parent - Schiff, Harriet Sarnoff - (3 copies)

*Empty Arms - Ilse, Sherokee

Good Night, My Son - Smucker, Esther F.

Newborn Death- Johnson, Joy & Dr. Marvin

*Roses In December - Heavilin, Marilyn Willett (2 Copies)

When the Bough Breaks - Bernstein, Judith R.

HOW TO HELP CHILDREN COPE WITH GRIEF

Death And The Classroom - Cassini, Kathleen K. & Rogers, Jacquelin L.

Explaining Death To Children - Grollman, Earl A.

*Good Grief: Helping Groups Of Children When A Friend Dies- Fox, Sandra Sutherland

The Grieving Child - Fitzgerald, Helen

*Healing The Bereaved Child - Wolfelt, Alan D.

Heaven's Not a Crying Place - O'Connor, Joey - (2 Copies)

Helping Children Cope With Grief - Wolfelt, Alan D.

Keys To Helping Children Deal With Death & Guilt - Johnson, Joy

Living With Grief - Doka, Kenneth J.

Talking About Death: A Dialogue Between Parent & Child - Grollman, Earl A.

A Teacher's Guide To The Grieving Student - Hospice of Lancaster County

When Someone You Love Dies - Coleman, Wm. L.

CHILDREN'S BOOKS ON GRIEF

Badger's Parting Gifts - Varley, Susan

Beyond The Ridge - (Age 9+) - Goble, Paul

The Everlasting Snowman - Darden, Hunter D.

*The Fall Of Freddie The Leaf - (All Ages) - Buscaglia, Ph.D., Leo

Grandpa & Me, we learn about death - Alex, Marlee & Ben

*Lifetimes (Ages 3-8) - Mellonie, Bryan & Igpen, Robert - (2 copies)

Liplap's Wish - London, Jonathan & Long, Sylvia

Losing Uncle Tim (Age 8+) - Jordan, Mary Kate

Love You Forever (Ages 3-9) - Munsch, Robert

*No New Baby (Ages 3-8) - Gryte, Marilyn

A Quilt For Elizabeth (Age 8+) - Tiffault, Benette

The Saddest Time (Age 8+) - Simon, Norma

*The Secret Places (Age 7+) - Campbell, Dr. James A.

Tell Me Papa (Ages 3-8) - Johnson, Joy & Marv

The Tenth Good Thing About Barney- Viorst, Judith

The Three Birds - van den Berg, Marinus

*Timothy Duck (Ages 6-10) - Blackburtn, Lynn Bennett

When A Pet Dies - Rogers, Fred ( Mister Rogers' Neighborhood)

When Someone Dies (Age 5+)- Greenlee Sharon

Where's Jess (Age 3+) - Johnson, Joy & Marv

Winter Grief, Summer Grace (Ages 10-15) - Miller, James E.

GRIEF IN THE TEEN YEARS

Facing Change - O'Toole, Donna

GRIEF ON TRAGIC DEATH & SUICIDE

*December's Song - Heavilin, Marilyn Willett

* Healing After The Suicide Of A Loved One - Smolin, Ann & Guinan, John (2 copies)

Just Us: Homicidal Loss & Grief - Henry-Jenkins, Wanda

Living With Grief After Sudden Loss - Doka, Kenneth J.(VCR Tape Available Also)(2 copies)

Lost & Found - Glover, Beryl S.

*A Message Of Hope: For Surviving The Tragedy Of Suicide - Harness-Overley, Patricia

No Time For Goodbyes - Lord, Janice Harris

Stronger Than Death When Suicide Touches Your Life - Chance, Sue

*Suicide: Survivors - Wrobleski, Adina (2 copies)

*Suicide Survivors' Handbook - Carlson, Trudy

When Bad Things Happen To Good People - Kushner, Harold

HELP FOR THE WIDOWED

Challenge And Change In The Single Life - Town, Jim (2 copies)

Coping With Being Single Again - Hensley, J. Clark

*Early Widow - Worden, Mary Jane

God's Promises For The Widow - Nordland, Frances

Grieving: A Love Story - Coughlin, Ruth

Help During Grief: Hope For The Hurting - Ammerman, J. Mark & Kathy (3 Copies)

*I'm Grieving As Fast As I Can - Feinberg, Linda

Learn To Risk - Reed, Ph.D., Bobbie

Living For Today/Planning For Tomorrow - Lynch, Shelly

*Living With Loss - Stern, Ellen Sue

Loving Again - Ryan, Joseph A.

Men & Grief - Staudacher, Carol

Reflections For Women Alone - Streeter, Carole Sanderson

Remarriage In Midlife - Hunter, Verdell

Riches Stored In Secret Places - Davis, Verdell

Sex & Love When You're Single Again - Jones, Thomas F.

Single But Not Alone - Graver, Jane

Survival Handbook For Widows - Loewinsohn, Ruth Jean

Swallowed By A Snake - Golden, Thomas R.

A Time To Say Good-Bye - Goulding, Mary McClure

Widow Rebuilding your life - Ginsburg, Genevieve

Widow To Widow - Ginsburg, M.S., Genevieve Davis

*Widowed - Brothers, Joyce (2 copies)

The Widower - Kohn, Jane & Willard K.

The Widow's Handbook - Foehner, Charlotte & Cozart, Carol

EXPRESSING CONDOLENCES

The Art of Condolence - Zunin, Leonard M., M.D. & Hilary Stanton

CAREGIVERS

The Caregiver's Companion: Words to Comfort and Inspire - Moffatt, Betty Clare

*Caretakers: The Forgotten People - Floyd, Maita

When Love Gets Tough: The Nursing Home Decision - Manning, Doug

UNDERSTANDING WOMEN AND THEIR ROLES

Women Who Run With The Wolves - Estes, Clarissa Pinkola, Ph.D.

FUNERAL & MEMORIAL PLANNING

Creating Meaningful Funeral Ceremonies - Wolfelt, Alan D., Ph.D.

The Memorial Rituals Book for Healing & Hope - Putter, Ann Marie

Planning A Meaningful Cremation Funeral - Manning, Doug

VIDEO TAPES

A Child's View Of Grief - Wofelt, Alan D. (Book Available Also)

Creating Meaningful Funeral Ceremonies - Wofelt, Alan D. (CFDATeleconference 1/24/96)

Good Grief: Living With What We Got - Sims, Darcie

Good Grief: May Love Be What You Remember The Most - Sims, Darcie

Honoring Tradition, Incorporating Innovation - Wolfelt, Alan D.

How children Interpret Death - Sims, Darcie (CFDA Teleconfrence1/18/98)

Living With Grief After Sudden Loss - Doka, Kenneth J. (Hospice Teleconference + Book)

Living With Grief: At Work, At School, At Worsip - Davidson, Joyce D. & Kenneth J. Doka (Book Available Also)

VIDEO TAPES continued

Living With Grief When Illness is Prolonged - Doka, Kenneth J. (Hospice Teleconference + Book)

Living With Grief: Who Are We; How Do We Grieve - Doka, Kenneth J. (Hospice Teleconference + Book)

Someone You Love Is Dying: How Do Your Cope? - Corr, Charles A. (Book Available Also)

Whitewater: The Positive Power Of Grief - Accord Aftercare

Working Through Your Grief - Sunderland, Ronald H. (Book Available Also)

AUDIO TAPES

If I Could Just See Hope: Help Through Each Season & The First Year - Sims, Darcie

* BOOKS DONATED IN MEMORY OF A LOVED ONE

Community Bereavement Connection

What is the "Community Bereavement Connection?"

It is a network of groups and agencies that provide supportive services to those who are experiencing grief. Grief can be a very lonely and difficult experience. Knowing that others have experienced similar losses and have found caring support can help. Archuleta, La Plata and Montezuma counties offer many such services that can help ease the loneliness.

We are never prepared for the death of a loved one. The shock, pain, anger, sadness, feelings of guilt, longing, loneliness and confusion seem to overtake us. We are searching for answers and seem to find only endless questions.

To help understand and cope with grief, we would like to suggest some resources that are available to help work through the grieving process. One step toward healing is sharing with other people who have experienced similar loss through death. They may be better able to understand the feelings and frustrations. Support groups consisting of other grievers can provide a safe, confidential environment in which to share and exchange the feelings and problems associated with grief. Following is a list of the support available in the area.

LOCAL SUPPORT GROUPS

ALZHEIMER'S FAMILY SUPPORT GROUP

The La Plata County group meets the fourth Monday each month at 12:00 noon at the Alzheimer's Association Office, 701 Camino Del Rio, Suite 115A in Durango. For information call Elaine at 259-0122. The Archuleta County group meets the first Monday monthly at 5:00 p.m. at the Pine Ridge Extended Care Center, 199 Bastille Dr. in Pagosa Springs.

AMERICAN CANCER SOCIETY

The La Plata County Unit meets the third Thursday each month at 6:00 p.m. at the Durango Cancer Center, 3801 N. Main Avenue in Durango. Call Jean at 247-0278.

· Cancer Support Group

This group meets every Tuesday at 5:30 p.m. at the Luter Cancer Center Library at 3801 N. Main Avenue in Durango. It is open to anyone who has had a cancer experience such as a patient, caregiver, family member or friends. The service is free. Contact the ACS office at 247-0278 for more information.

· Reach to Recovery Program

This group is available to anyone seeking support or information before and after breast cancer treatment or reconstruction. Please contact Trish at 382-4295.

· Breast Cancer Survivors Support Group

This group meets the first Saturday each month at noon. Bring your lunch. For information call Lil at 259-1181, Trish at 382-4295, or Hazel at 247-5751.

· Man to Man Prostate Cancer Support Group

This group meets from 7:00 to 9:00 p.m. the first Tuesday each month. Call Jim at 385-4567.

HOSPICE OF MERCY

Hospice of Mercy provides a variety of bereavement services including individual and family grief counseling, as well as support groups.

· Adult Grief Education & Support Groups

This group combines an educational and supportive approach to help bereaved persons move toward resolving their grief in a structured, confidential environment. Experienced bereavement facilitators conduct each three-hour session once a week for 10 weeks. Homework projects and exercises are encouraged to promote growth through the grief process. Regular attendance is required since each session builds upon the previous one. Persons who are at the point of wanting to work through their loss find this non-confrontational support group very helpful. Groups are offered three times a year and are open to anyone in the community who has had a loss due to death. Call 382-2000 or 259-1357.

· Children's Grief Camp

Camp Cascade is held each year in September. The camp is for children in the 2^nd through 8^th grade. For more information call 382-2000.

· Children's Grief Support Groups

Hospice of Mercy offers support groups for children. Call 382-2000 for information.

· "Light A Candle Of Love" Remembrance Service

An annual remembrance service held in November to celebrate the memory of family members and friends who have died. The Alzheimer's Association, American Cancer Society, Four Corners Health Care Center, Hood Mortuary, and Hospice of Mercy sponsor the ceremony.

ROCKY MOUNTAIN HMO

Bereavement counseling may be a benefit of a subscriber's coverage with Rocky Mountain HMO. Call Member Services at 1-800-843-0719 for more information.

WELL ELDER PROGRAMS

There are three programs that make up the Well Elder Programs at this time. Mercy Medical Center, AARP, Colorado Division of Insurance, Area Agency on Aging and Hood Mortuary sponsor the programs.

· Senior Insurance Advisory Program

For ten years, trained volunteers have assisted people who have questions and concerns about Medicare and secondary insurance. For example, volunteers have helped people who literally have a shoebox full of paperwork from doctors, hospitals, Medicare and insurance companies, and have no idea how to make sense of the chaos. Volunteers help answer questions over the phone or in person.

· The Reminiscence Program

This group of trained volunteers reaches out to homebound or institutionalized members of the community. Visiting at least one hour per week, and using reminiscence as a tool for interacting, everyone "wins" as the reminiscer relives pieces of his or her life. This allows the volunteer to develop a relationship with the individual whose stories from the past often give hints of how to live the present. Some volunteers may help reminiscers write or tape their stories to be shared with their families and generations that follow.

· AARP / Widowed Persons Service

Call Julie Madden at 382-2000 for information on the following items. As with the other services, trained volunteers (who are also widowed and have resolved some of their grief issues) offer support to newly widowed men and women in the form of:

Outreach - providing volunteers who have been widowed to visit the newly bereaved and discuss on a one-to-one basis the adjustments to the challenges of widowhood.

Social Opportunities - breakfast gatherings are offered in Durango, Bayfield, Ignacio and Cortez once a month.

Education - trainings, videotapes for loan, teleconferences and grief-related articles in monthly mailings from WINGS support group.

Referral Service - providing widowed persons with information of other resources available in our community.

Peer Support Group - WINGS (Widowed In Need of Group Support) evening group meets on the third Tuesday each month at La Plata County Fairgrounds. For information call Julie Madden at 382-2000.

HEARTBEAT

This is a support group for those who have lost a loved one through suicide. It meets at 7:00 p.m. the first and third Tuesday each Month at the First Presbyterian Church in Durango. Call Marcia at 884-9843, Tina at 382-8221, or Jim or Mary Ann at 259-2294, or its sponsor, Southwest Colorado Mental Health, at 259-2162 for more information.

SAN JUAN BASIN AREA AGENCY ON AGING

This agency offers home services such as snow removal, heavy cleaning, installation of home safety devices, painting, plumbing, carpentry and electrical repairs. It also offers group and home-delivered meals through the Nutrition Services program. The office is located at 701 Camino Del Rio, Suite 108 in Durango. Call 259-1967.

WESTERN EMPLOYEE ASSISTANCE SERVICE

This service is by appointment only, and is provided to employees who have Employee Assistance Benefits through their employer. Call 259-0117. Assistance is provided for:

Marriage/Relationship Problems · Family Issues

Personal Emotional Issues · Stress Related Problems

Drug/Alcohol Problems · Financial Pressures

Legal Matters · Grief Related Issues

MADD

The Southwest Colorado Chapter of Mothers Against Drunk Driving can be reached at 385-4211, or in an emergency at 247-4715. Tim Williams is the local Victim's Advocate. The mailing address is P.O. Box 3630, Durango, CO 81302.

NATIONAL AND STATE

SUPPORT GROUPS

COMPASSIONATE FRIENDS

(For bereaved parents and siblings)

P.O. Box 3696, Oak Brook, IL 60522

1-877-969-0010

compassionatefriends.org

NATIONAL SHARE

(For help after Miscarriage, Stillbirth and Infant Death)

St. Joseph Health Center

300 First Capitol Drive, St. Charles, MO 63301

1-800-821-6819 or 636-947-6164